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"Celebrities - A psychologists perspective "

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Celebrities are humans – as imperfect, mistake making and as vulnerable as any other. Unfortunately these humans are given God like status or are perceived to be so by their fans as -- perfect, faultless creatures – and then when they are seen as having human frailties we wonder what happened! So when ‘Gods’ date or marry ‘Goddesses’ the relationships we believe have to be ‘Godlike’! And ‘Gods’ aren’t supposed to break up, have discord, indulge in infidelity, suffer angry bouts, sulk, beat each other up, cry, feel lonely, experience jealousy, or have fights. Their relationships are supposed to be angelic – where nothing ever goes wrong, they remain in love forever, never break up, and live happily ever after!

Is it a wonder that with this created image, celebrities fight so desperately to maintain a stoic silence about their ‘affairs’ and pretend that all is hunky dory in their love life, when it may actually be in tatters? Or behave like ostrich’s and refuse to see a problem when there is one. And continue existing with their partners even when their love may have died. And for the sake of their image continue when they may have grown apart? 

The idols themselves first of all need to stop pretending to be God or God like. This would aid them see themselves as equally vulnerable and susceptible to human imperfections as any ‘mere mortal’. This would help, because with a more human approach to himself or herself and without the misconception of being ‘special’, they would realize that the essence of all good relating, celebrity or otherwise, needs very hard work. Often with the grandiosity of being ‘out of the ordinary’, it isn’t hard to delude oneself into believing that “our relationships should just work out and don’t need special attention”. And with this attitude then, the striving, the effort and the adjusting that is required for better relating and loving is often relegated to the back burner or is only supposed to be “for others”.

Fans would do well too in not raising their idols to the sky and giving them a Godlike status. To see that their role models have feet of clay, and are prone to all the gamut of emotions, difficulties, and hardships that comprise any romantic liaison. The lesser the pressure from the outer world for the ‘stars’ to ‘be’, ‘behave’, or ‘act’ in a particular manner, the more the energy can be concentrated on good living and loving!